To all the families who have put their parents and grandparents in such places, I pray that we might try to let go of our guilt. Perhaps some of us are simply warehousing our inconvenient ancestors, but I have not seen too much of that. The truth is that growing old in America today is much too complex to allow for such misplaced self-pity. We are, sadly, not living in the old neighborhoods. We are not surrounded by large extended families who gather every Sunday to play cards and eat traditional greasy food while sharing the burden of care for our old ones. We need places like Chai Point now. We cannot give them what they gave to their parents, and our own lives would neither protect nor nurture them. We are not putting them in homes to soothe our guilt. We are enabling our parents to knit together a new life with others their age who remember things we do not know.
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